Why Worry?

Worry can be defined as representing an attempt to engage in mental problem-solving on an issue whose outcome is uncertain but contains the possibility of one or more negative outcomes. Consequently, worry relates closely to the fear process. And anything causing a strong unpleasant emotion isn’t the most healthy or productive thing for you on any level.

However, although worry is closely related or tied into the fear process, it’s the ego’s misaligned way of trying to protect you from an unknown ‘danger’. Something you feel relatively unprepared to deal with. So, it isn’t necessarily a completely negative thing, it is just misdirected concern.  You see, your ego (AKA Edging God Out) is simply trying to protect you. Now perhaps the way it is going about this isn’t the most productive method, however it is trying. And for that reason, should be recognized.  Not condemned. Let’s say, for instance, you have to make a presentation at work or school. You are terrified, and your ego isn’t helping. ‘Well (so and so—fill in your own name here), your Ego says, “You really aren’t prepared for this. You lack the knowledge for this. What makes you think you’ll do well? “Now the job of the ego is simply to protect you- however, because it is pure emotion, there’ no reason behind it. So how do you deal with it? You befriend and acknowledge your Ego. “Thank you, Ego,” I hear you. Granted I may be less prepared than you think I should be, Although I appreciate your input, I will be fine.”. (Doing this makes the ego realize you recognize and appreciate its misdirected efforts to help you’” Then you give your ego a job. “So, Ego, instead of telling me what I am doing wrong, why don’t you let me know what I need to do to be more prepared?”. OR put in a simpler way: “Let me know where I can get a good cup of coffee or strong drink” Anything to distract your ego, the part that means well, but frequently creates worry and stress.

Worrying about what may – or may not – happen can sometimes stop us from moving on with our lives or taking chances that we are offered.

So, you might ask, Although I realize that worry isn’t a productive or positive helpful practice.  How can I  limit or eliminate doing it? Well allow me to share some ways which I have found to be incredibly helpful in doing just that.

  •  Schedule your worry time. …Maybe 10-15 minutes a day. And then spend about 10 minutes thinking of how you would like the situation to be.
  • Have a worry box in which you put your worries every day and find a solution for each one. Again, thoughts are powerful things
  • Accept the fact that there will be times that worry will pop up. Allow yourself to take a specific amount of time each day, thinking about your worry, and coming up with solutions  
  • Ask yourself what the gift in this situation might be. Even if it is to just look at it or deal with it differently. There is always a gift.
  •  Meditation is one of the best tools I know to help deal with worry. It connects you with your Higher self – the part that has all the answers and increases your meditation. It only needs to be about 10-15 minutes a day, but done regularly and consistently it is powerful.

Here are a couple quotes on worry by Famous Folks:

“When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened.”
– Winston Churchill

““There is a great difference between worry and concern. A worried person sees a problem, and a concerned person solves a problem.”
– Harold Stephen

So, in a nutshell, worry can have advantages in that it lets you know things need to be changed. Just allow yourself to be open to the answers. The main thing is not to blame yourself, when something is off,  This concern it is just showing you that you need to make some changes even if just in view or attitude. Once you do this you are open to making the changes you want and need to make. 

 

 

 

 

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