On Being Unique

Merriam Webster’s online dictionary defines unique as “being without a like or equal: unlike anything or anyone else. American poet and author Henry van Dyke is credited with saying, “Use what talents you possess; the woods would be very silent if no birds sang there except those that sang best”.

Now, The thing is, everyone is unique in their own way. But how can you embrace and celebrate your individuality  in a way that not only makes you brighter and shinier, but also blesses and enhances those you come in contact with? Start by thinking of something you really like to do. You know, these don’t just have to be talents like singing or math, although they can be, of course. They can also be ways of just being. empathy, ability to listen, having the capacity to be a calming presence for someone, or even just utilizing very sharp intuition. Something that comes easily to you. The point is t, find something you like to do and then find a way to express and maybe develop it. Like art? Get a sketch pad or take a class.. Like to cook? Maybe get a cookbook and try experimenting with a type of cuisine which interests you, or join monthly cooking class.

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

We all have gifts and abilities. But sometimes our failure to appreciate what we already have can keep us from, further developing our gifts, or finding new ones (due to our failure to appreciate what we already do have.  OR sometimes what we already have or can do comes so easily, that we just think everyone can do it.

The Vibration of “Thank You”: Gratitude is the ultimate “mood shifter.” You cannot feel envious and truly grateful at the same time Don’t compare your life with others. There’s no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it’s their time. Anonymous

The Mirror vs. The Window: When you look at others (the window), remind yourself to come back to your own reflection (the mirror) with kindness.

Actionable Step: Suggest a “Comparison Fast” where, for 24 hours, every time a comparison arises, it must be replaced by a statement of self-gratitude.  

I especially like this Japanese quote: “A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms.”

SO GET OUT THERE AND BLOOM!