There’s a fine line between being proactive and being open. I often equate being overly structured (in terms of being set in one’s ways) to reading a map. You have a destination in mind. The map, however, is old and outdated. The fact that you are so determined to use this map, keeps you from observing that the signs all around you have changed, and no longer will get you to your destination If you would put down the map and look around, you might notice a more effective way to do things.